Thursday, May 20, 2010

Two Questions

"You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when. You can only decide how you're going to live. Now"

Two questions to consider:

Question #1.
At this moment in your life ... Are you proud of the professional choices you are making?

Question #2.
At this moment in your life ... Are you proud of the personal choices you are making?

Organizational therapist Connie Podesta asked those two questions of a worldwide audience recently at Leadercast 2010 and judging from the reaction, most seemed to feel less than satisfied on one or both counts. In other words, many of us typically feel something is lacking in either one or both departments and in case you didn't get the memo - there is no separating the two.

Personal and professional are constantly intertwined.

One always affects the other.

Anyone who tries to tell you otherwise, or that you should "compartmentalize" is an idiot.

That being said, the actual level of dissatisfaction, the degree to which it burns into your soul, is what inspires you to actually start doing something about it. And here is what most people just aren't aware of.

This is simple stuff. Simpler than you make it out to be.

Much simpler.

In fact, it is so ridiculously simple... once you recognize the pattern.

And therein, lies the clue.

Can you recognize the patterns of choices and decisions that have led you to the place you find yourself right now both personally and professionally? If you can see those patterns, are you prepared to accept 1000% accountability for their outcomes and the responsibility to make new choices and decisions?

If you can't, you still live in the Land of False Hope, where you will find no shortage of astrologists, fortune tellers, psychics and others willing to sell you some form of lottery ticket as a down payment on your dream. Diamonds that rust as quickly as you bought them.

When it comes to your personal or professional journey, one of the hardest things to learn is which bridge to cross and which to burn. But, if you can wrap your noggin around three more questions, you could be on your way to digging yourself out of whatever hole you find yourself in.

I first noticed these three questions in a MondayMorningMemo from Roy H. Williams, published June 1, 2009. And these questions can apply to you both personally and professionally.

1. What are you trying to make happen?
2. How will you measure success?
3. What's the first thing you need to do to get started?

If you can answer each of these three questions in 12 words or less, you could be well on your way. In 12 words or less, you will know what has to be done and the disciplines you need to enforce for your answers to become reality.

If not, you're still trapped in false hope fantasy that has you spinning in many different directions, which means you have some digging to do.

You might want to start here.

"When you have to make a choice and don't make it, that is in itself a choice"
WILLIAM JAMES (1842-1910)

P.S. ... For the record, I thought Connie Podesta offered a refreshingly simple perspective on some of the biggest challenges many of us face. Here is sample of the approach Connie takes with her audiences.

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