Monday, March 22, 2010

Personal Pardons

Your burden is one you know only too well.

A cancerous, dead weight.

Lugged around in your heart for so long, you've forgotten it's even there.

Because it is just easier that way.

Until something happens that re-opens festering, venomous wounds never healed.


You are not the only one.

Each day, many of us struggle to conceal battle scars of anger, resentment, jealousy, or other negative emotions directed towards people no longer sharing our journey. Logically, even intuitively, we know it's not healthy, but for some reason, the heavy burden of hatred proves impossible to unload. Intellectually, we know it's in our best interests to forgive. Emotionally? Much easier said than done.


So agonizingly difficult to grant once hurt, or worse, devastated. However, recovery from soul-searing injury will always be elusive until we forgive and free a prisoner of our own device.

Few know this better than best-selling author Dr. Wayne Dyer.

Some see Forgiveness as a sign of weakness, however, as Dr. Dyer has demonstrated, nothing is further from the truth. As Ghandi once explained, "The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong".

Do you have the strength within you this week to issue a personal pardon called Forgiveness? Is there someone in your past - dead or alive - that needs to know they have been released and you're letting go?

The circumstances of each case will be different and Forgiveness will grant freedom to a prisoner called you, but don't expect clemency with a simple, "I'm sorry".

According to a trusted source who has "been there, done that", true Forgiveness happens only when you overcome your own pain and anger to the point where you can acknowledge the pain felt by the other person - whether you were the cause or not. In her words, "As long as you are focused on your own hurt, you won't allow yourself to acknowledge theirs".

Saying "I can forgive, but I cannot forget" is just another way of saying, I will not forgive. True Forgiveness is like a cancelled cheque. Ripped up,burned up and never seen again.

Forgiveness has been called love in its most noble form, but you don't need to be the King or Queen of England to terminate a life sentence of suffering with a single sentence. You alone possess the power of a monarch to make that happen.

Forgiveness never changes the past, but it does alter the future.

Could it alter yours?

And allow you to soar like never before?

"These times are so uncertain. Theres a yearning undefined.
And people filled with rage. We all need a little tenderness.
How can love survive in such a graceless age?"


P.S. ...By making a choice to forgive his dead father, Dr. Wayne Dyer was acting on a timeless truth, explained by a leading expert on the subject.

And validated on a grander scale by a fellow Nobel Prize winner.

1 comment:

Lenny Boudreau said...

So true...The funny thing about most people who have hurt you is that they dont even remember or care...You are the one who is still keeping these feelings/issues alive...

Thanks for the insight.